Ok, so things don't usually get to me (or at least I don't write about them on the blog), but this morning's news got to me. They interviewed a woman who has two children through international adoption. One of the questions was why she & her husband chose international adoption and she spoke about how you can "get" a healthy infant... It's the word "get" that bothers me here. I assume this mom did not in any way intend this, but when I hear "get" about a child, it devalues the process, the miracle, of adoption. It sounds like a grocery store, or a good bargain. I am sure this mom loves her babies, and I am not really blaming her - it is really that there is a lack of good language to use about adoption. I mean, they call it "gotcha day" after all. (I'm not particularly fond of that either, but again don't blame people for using it - it is part of the adoption lexicon.) Am I alone in this bothering me? The idea of "getting" a child? What do you say when referring to how your child came to you?
I do have to give this mom credit though - the interviewer asked her what her response would be to people who say that there are so many kids who need homes here - why didn't she adopt domestically? She said, "Well, adopt them!" She went on to say that they had tried domestic, but it didn't work out, but I liked her bold answer.